Most grown adults have friends or have personal experience with the journey of suffering because of the death of a parent, sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle, in-law, cousins or significant other.

Many have even lived vicariously through unforeseen natural disaster tragedies with close friends or just fellow Americans as casualties of the war.

This type of life-changing event is high on the list as a source of daily life stress. This type of loss usually has a profound impact and potentially may become a long-term burden. Studies also indicate that the death of a loved one can be even more devastating for a child. Children must be permitted to express their anxieties.

Youngsters usually take a clue or follow the lead based on how adults behave. Death impacts adults differently around children. Adults need to be aware that children need explanations in clear and simple terms. They require the assurances of continuous love and care in their daily lives.

What can we do to alleviate the after effects of this colossal pain? Grieving is the natural way to relieve this intense suffering. But not everyone knows how to grieve. there are times we do not even recognize the need to grieve after a life-altering event.

Some individuals are left unable to talk, function or think clearly. Things do not make sense. Yet, how can we argue that death is not natural and normal? Every one of us lives and we all die. What we do between the living and dying is the great difference that we make in this world.

There are four groups that deal with people in grief. They are clergy, funeral directors, mental health professionals and those whose lives have been changed by death. Who do you see to discuss your grief? That depends on whom you trust.

Many people are unaware that their loved ones can also help them make sense of their shared pain.

There is another group that has only innocence but helps just as much as people from those four groups I mentioned. A newborn or young child will share their unconditional love without hesitation. Their innocent dependence brings out the best in most people to help the healing process of grieving.

The unconditional love from a child is something that is much needed by a person that has lost a loved one to death. It helps provide a reason for life that goes on.

Reflect on those around us. I'm sure there is someone in close proximity who needs your help, experience and guidance.

The Compassionate Friends founded in 1969, has 600 chapters and provides mutual assistance, friendship and understanding to families after a death.

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Joe-Santos Medina is a resident of Robstown. Readers may contact him via email at